By CJ Kallevig
Disclaimer: This is basically me talking through what I’ve seen others go through. Which means that this is kind of a rant, kind of deep thinking.
Relationships are hard. I’m just throwing it out there, relationships are really challenging. Whether they be romantic, platonic, familial, or a five-minute interaction; they are all difficult.
Now before you get too concerned, I don’t think that all the time. Relationships can be fantastic and beautiful. However, broken relationships are one of the worst things in the world. If you have experienced any sort of relationship that has been fractured or completely torn apart, you know how much that can hurt. It also hurts to witness a relationship that is breaking, especially if there is nothing that you can do to help.
I have had to watch people I care about go through tears, anger, and struggles because of broken relationships. I’ve dealt with it on a personal level as well. For me, however, it is so much worse to watch my friends go through it than it is for me to deal with it. It’s worse because I can do nothing concrete to help them. It’s infuriating.
There is hope, though: there is one relationship that is always good. And that’s our relationship with Jesus Christ.
But our relationship with Christ does not just happen on its own. Like any other relationship, it takes work and dedication to bring it to a place where it can be deep and lasting.
When you are in a relationship, doesn’t matter what type, you talk to the other person. You tell them the good, the bad, and everything in between. Communication is key in any relationship and especially so in our relationship with Jesus. Jesus wants to talk to us! He wants to have long conversations with us. He wants us to tell him when we are happy, sad, angry, and everything in between. He wants to hear how our day went or what troubles we are having. We never have to hide anything from our Savior.
In a homily, my priest said, “We are all messed-up freaks.” That’s a direct quote. And it’s true. We are messed-up freaks for a variety of reasons: sin, fear, anger, everything that pulls us away from Christ. But you know what? Jesus loves us even more because of it. His love is what transforms us from just random, run-of-the-mill messed-up freaks into His messed-up freaks.
Relationships are challenging. They can suck sometimes, and they can be wonderful sometimes. But the one relationship that is always steady and is the model for all of our relationships is our relationship with Christ. His love for us never changes. No matter what.
God bless you all, and I will see you in the Eucharist.